Why do women get mad at the other woman?

Why do women get mad at the other woman?

I understand being angry, hell, you have every right to be angry when you believe you’re in a committed relationship and you find out your lover has been stepping out on you. Who wouldn't be angry? My issue is with mis-directed anger. In my opinion, when you are involved with someone they are the only person who owes you an explanation. Why? Because they committed to you, not the other person involved in the betrayal. There are exceptions though, if you're married or if the sideline knew about you before they got involved then yes...you do have the right to be angry. BUT just the right to be angry...Girlfriends getting so angry about penis (which is free and plentiful) to the point of confrontation and violence is getting ridiculous. When someone gets involved with a person knowing that they’re committed to someone else is just showing you a little bit about their character and moral. Never call or text numbers you find. EVER! Getting into arguments or physical altercations at clubs, kick backs or functions over a man shows extreme insecurity and immaturity. The only person that owes you an explanation is the person you're sleeping with. They betrayed your trust and that is a. issue that needs to be addressed immediately. Some of you ladies are addressing the issue with someone who really isn’t the problem. The problem is your man. Although I can sympathize with the woman who has no idea her man cheating and randomly finds out; I can't respect a woman who flips out on the woman who her man is sleeping with but still stays with the man or will have sex with him at the drop of a hat.


Anyway, make sure when you get upset about something you’re upset with the right person. The truth of the matter is when you find out your man is cheating, either you stay and deal with it or leave. It really is that simple.

Never give up

When things start to get fuzzy & feel like I wanna give up, I say this aloud to myself,


"When things go wrong as they sometimes will, when the road you're trudging seems all up hill, when the funds are low and the debts are high, and you want to smile but you have to sigh, when care is pressing you down a bit, rest if you must but don't you quit. Life is queer with its twists and turns, as every one of us sometimes learns, and many a failure turns about, when he might have won had he stuck it out. Don't give up though the pace seems slow, you may succeed with another blow, success is failure turned inside out, the silver tint of clouds of doubt, and you can never tell how close you are, it may be near when it seems so far, so stick to the fight when you're hardest hit, it's when things seem worst that you must not quit...."



MBA by 2011.....

Happy being the other woman (Pt. 2)

I usually don’t post anything in the comments section but I have to speak for the women who are happy being the other woman, the jump off, the sideline, if you will. One of my best friends asked me why I continue to sleep with this guy knowing he has a girlfriend and this is what I told her….
I’m a 23 year old chick who has her sh*t together. Might sound vain but really its true. Going to school about to graduate in June of 09, got my own spot, my own car and a damn good job. Unfortunately, I was once sidetracked by love and it almost ruined my life. I almost lost everything I had and was working for. The man I loved didn’t give a f*ck about me. I was just as dumb as Kim Porter is when it comes to Diddy. Swearing up and down my boyfriend was my real life Mr.. Big. Lol at myself!! “I’m his main chick so f*ck the other b*tches!” I’m the one he bought a ring for and took on a trip to Hawaii but I was also the one who got dogged out the most outta all the rest of the h*es. All you so-called wifey’s, girlfriends, and main’s might not wanna admit this but you’re getting done wrong and you’re not even happy. Which is why I’m now the other woman, his mistress, the jump-off, if you will. Call it what you want but I’m happy with an occasional f*ck, dinner, a couple shoes and no emotions involved.
Bran….well, lets just call him Josh, is a win-win situation. I don’t have to worry about why he didn’t call me back last night. With Josh I don’t argue or fight. He’s not my man, he’s just my f*ck buddy so that aint my job to worry about where he been all night. I get the benefits of having a boyfriend (with the great sex, great convo’s and dinner) and the benefits of not having a boyfriend (no drama, no embarrassment, no shared accounts). Which is why I don’t believe that men are the only ones who can benefit from this type of “relationship”. This might sound harsh but hell no I don’t feel guilty for having sex with Josh! I don’t want to take him from her, I just borrow him from time to time. Believe it or not I feel sorry for Josh’s girlfriend and I sometimes wonder if she knows he’s cheating; Though I doubt if she found out I would care. In society, people make us believe that women can’t do what men do. Yes we can(Vote Obama 08′) and we do it better! And your absolutely right, there are no male “hoes”, “mistresses”, or “jump-off’s” but I be damned if I’m labeled as one just because I wanna get my swerve on! I don’t feel the least bit guilty for nothing I do. And even though Kelis is one weird ass chick she said, “I’m the author of the only dictionary that defines me.” And that’s real talk.




Thanks, Miss Necole Bitchie.